Long Live our Girlfriends!

Every woman needs a good girlfriend or two.

I believe it’s crucial for our development, our mental stability, and it’s necessary in order for us to be the best wife, mother, driven career woman and successful multi-taskers that we are. As sweet as our husbands or boyfriends may be, we need the camaraderie of another female, one that appreciates gabbing for hours over coffee with a decadent chocolate éclair; one that convinces you to buy yet another pair of black heels (and yes, this pair is totally different than all the others you already own); one that can sympathesize with those hormonal changes during that time of the month, because she’s going through the same thing. We depend on our girlfriends to motivate us when we’re down, be our cheerleaders when we need a ‘boost’ and love us unconditionally through it all.

A good girlfriend or two is required --- for our sanity as women.

My grandmother has been friends with her Alpha Omega sorority group since college. They’ve been best friends for fifty years -- and been present – physically and emotionally -- for the most important and influential moments of one another’s lives. They’ve made it a priority to be there for one another – through thick and thin – and I believe their bond of closeness, laughter and companionship has contributed greatly to my grandmother’s wonderfully long and happy life.

What did cave women do during the dark ages? How did they emotionally survive while their husbands were out all day killing their dinner? What about the ladies of the Victorian age? Did they bore themselves to death while they waited around for a proper suitor? No. They formed a bond with their siblings; they created a sisterhood with the ladies of the same village or town – and instantly, a commonality begins.

Whatever time period we are from, we find a way to be there for other women. It takes the form of quilting bees, support groups; cardio classes, weaving circles. Whether we spend our time laughing together, crying together or both at the same time it really doesn’t matter. We are emotional creatures who follow our instincts to bond.

Here’s to the women we lean on for support in our lives. And to the great friend we are to someone else.


Long live our girlfriends!